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The Key to an Abundant Life

abundant life

Do you feel like you’re living an abundant life where you are right now, today?

I asked myself that question yesterday, I was struck with this harsh reality: My answer was no.
After dwelling on why that could be, I came to this conclusion:

I think that it is much easier to live out of a deficiency mentality than an abundance mentality. And the reason why is because we think that abundance is something we can achieve if we just work a little bit harder.

Have you ever tried to strive towards abundance? We think that when we have “the next thing,” we will be happy.
When we have the perfect relationship, our dream career, or a better house.
When we are no longer dealing with unwanted circumstances, heartbreaks, and pain.
When we are more patient, more skinny, more financially stable… when we are MORE.
Until we have more or can be more, we think we are deficient. And so we laser focus on the one thing we don’t have, while ignoring all the things we do have, and we feel empty.
The truth is, we are all so guilty of this. It is simply human nature to focus on what we don’t have and to do everything in our power to fix it. And let me tell you, there is nothing wrong with striving towards things that matter to you and building a life that you love.
But I don’t want to talk about that. I think society is obsessed with the “hustle till it hurts” mentality, and I don’t know about you, but it exhausts me. 

Sometimes there are circumstances that you can’t fix by sheer determination, and your heart will still hurt no matter how hard you “hustle.”

Some circumstances take time and require us to patiently pursue resolution.

My abundance question that I asked myself was prompted by a devotional that said: “There is abundant life in My Presence today”

Let me say it louder for the people in the back: There is abundance in my presence TODAY.

Abundance is not something we work to achieve. It’s not something we feel when we have more. Abundance is something we understand when we focus on God’s presence in our lives.

Much like God’s love, abundant life is not circumstantial… its unconditional.

Abundant life is really less about us and more about God.

It’s less about what we aren’t and more about who He is.

It’s less about all the things we do and more about what He has already done.

It’s less about what we don’t have and a whole lot more about what we have because of Him.

Jesus promises us abundant life TODAY. And it has absolutely nothing to do with what you have or don’t have, what you are struggling with, or where you are in your journey.

Jesus has made our lives abundant with His Love, right now, today.

Today I asked myself the same question. Nothing has changed in my life since yesterday. I still have the same struggles and the same deficiencies as yesterday. But today, I am living with an abundance mentality, because I have chosen to focus less on the thing I don’t have, and more on the One who I do.

Will you?

Did this post encourage you?

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<3, Britt

To the Girl Who Feels Inadequate

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt inadequate.

I think if every girl reading this were all sitting in a room together, we would be sitting in a sea of raised hands.

I mean really, haven’t we all:

Felt inadequate in our relationships.

Felt inadequate at our job.

Felt inadequate in school.

Felt inadequate in ministry.

Felt inadequate as a person.

It’s crazy how the slightest hitch in our lives: a word that feeds into insecurities, an unplanned event, or an “off” day can drastically impact our feelings of inadequacy.

Even a thing as small as burning a batch of brownies.

I work at a coffee shop, and part of my weekly responsibilities include baking the brownies we sell in the store. A few weeks ago, I put a batch of brownies in the oven, set a timer, and walked to the front of the store to continue serving customers. About half an hour later, my manager walked up to me and asked, “Brittany, does the oven usually start smoking when you bake brownies?”

After running to the kitchen and turning off the oven that was, in fact, smoking, I removed the batch of brownies, realizing I had set the oven to 400 degrees instead of 300 degrees.

The brownies weren’t just burnt, they were scorched. Yikes.

Burning the brownies was not a big deal. All I had to do was whip up another batch, throw them in the oven, and take the extra two seconds to verify that the oven was set to 300 degrees. However, it was the way burning the brownies made me feel that was the issue. Feelings of:

“I am a terrible employee.”

“I can’t do anything right.”

“I’m just not good at what I do.”

All those ugly thoughts…. from one batch of brownies.

I think our problem is this: Our feelings of inadequacy come from hyper-focusing on situational things. We come to the conclusion that because we’ve done one thing wrong, we suddenly have become inadequate in that general area of life.

I am inadequate in my relationship BECAUSE I said something hurtful that I can’t take back.

I must be a failure at relationships and undeserving of love.

I am inadequate in my job BECAUSE I didn’t hit my sales quota this month

I must be awful at my job and the weak link of the team.

I am inadequate in school BECAUSE I failed this exam I studied really hard for.

I must be stupid and incapable of pursuing this degree.

I am inadequate in ministry BECAUSE nothing impactful happened in the small group I was leading this week.

I must be incapable of pouring into the lives of those around me and leading people to Christ.

Therefore, I must be inadequate.

See the common theme?

When we tie our circumstances to our character, we will continue to feel inadequate every time we make a mistake.

The truth is, we will always feel inadequate in something if we equate our worth to what we do instead of who we are.

There will always be someone prettier, smarter, more energetic, more caring, and more enthusiastic than us.

But they can never be you.

The reason we feel inadequate is because we focus on WHAT makes us adequate instead of WHO makes us adequate.

Instead, we should say:

I am adequate in my relationships BECAUSE I am a child of God.

I am deserving of love.

I am adequate in my job BECAUSE I am a child of God.

I am not the weak link.

I am adequate in school BECAUSE I am a child of God.

I am smart and capable.

I am adequate in ministry BECAUSE I am a child of God.

I am capable of loving others and leading them to Christ.

Therefore, I am adequate.

You are adequate. Today, start believing it.. then start living it.