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The Key to an Abundant Life

abundant life

Do you feel like you’re living an abundant life where you are right now, today?

I asked myself that question yesterday, I was struck with this harsh reality: My answer was no.
After dwelling on why that could be, I came to this conclusion:

I think that it is much easier to live out of a deficiency mentality than an abundance mentality. And the reason why is because we think that abundance is something we can achieve if we just work a little bit harder.

Have you ever tried to strive towards abundance? We think that when we have “the next thing,” we will be happy.
When we have the perfect relationship, our dream career, or a better house.
When we are no longer dealing with unwanted circumstances, heartbreaks, and pain.
When we are more patient, more skinny, more financially stable… when we are MORE.
Until we have more or can be more, we think we are deficient. And so we laser focus on the one thing we don’t have, while ignoring all the things we do have, and we feel empty.
The truth is, we are all so guilty of this. It is simply human nature to focus on what we don’t have and to do everything in our power to fix it. And let me tell you, there is nothing wrong with striving towards things that matter to you and building a life that you love.
But I don’t want to talk about that. I think society is obsessed with the “hustle till it hurts” mentality, and I don’t know about you, but it exhausts me. 

Sometimes there are circumstances that you can’t fix by sheer determination, and your heart will still hurt no matter how hard you “hustle.”

Some circumstances take time and require us to patiently pursue resolution.

My abundance question that I asked myself was prompted by a devotional that said: “There is abundant life in My Presence today”

Let me say it louder for the people in the back: There is abundance in my presence TODAY.

Abundance is not something we work to achieve. It’s not something we feel when we have more. Abundance is something we understand when we focus on God’s presence in our lives.

Much like God’s love, abundant life is not circumstantial… its unconditional.

Abundant life is really less about us and more about God.

It’s less about what we aren’t and more about who He is.

It’s less about all the things we do and more about what He has already done.

It’s less about what we don’t have and a whole lot more about what we have because of Him.

Jesus promises us abundant life TODAY. And it has absolutely nothing to do with what you have or don’t have, what you are struggling with, or where you are in your journey.

Jesus has made our lives abundant with His Love, right now, today.

Today I asked myself the same question. Nothing has changed in my life since yesterday. I still have the same struggles and the same deficiencies as yesterday. But today, I am living with an abundance mentality, because I have chosen to focus less on the thing I don’t have, and more on the One who I do.

Will you?

Did this post encourage you?

If so, spread the encouragement! I made the reminders below because they are PERFECT for sharing on social media, adding to a Pinterest board, putting on your bathroom mirror, or sending in a quick text to a friend who could really use this reminder today!

& if you DO post on the gram, be sure to tag me @fearlesslyinfaith so I can come say “hey!” 😉

<3, Britt

The Comparison Ends Here.

comparison

Lately I have been thinking a lot about the idea of comparison and what it can do to us.

I’ve heard a lot of people say before that comparison is the thief of joy, and that is definitely true. But more of what I am coming to realize is that comparison is the thief of compassion.

So, confession, I struggle with comparison. I think all us girls do in some way or another. We all have a comparison trap, whether it’s body image, relationship goals, career aspirations, or a standard that you are trying (or supposed to be) living up to. And that just a small sampling of the long, long list.

We compare ourselves to others all the time, but not only that, we get compared to others… and standards others have.

Anyway, the idea I have been thinking a lot about lately is looking at the way comparison literally strips us our individuality, and the compassion we have for ourselves and others.

I feel like I need to scream this from the rooftop, so I’ll put it on the internet and see who finds it. Here is the truth:

YOU were created to be YOU.

…and sometimes, as simple as that statement is, it is incredibly hard to accept, both for you and for others.

People don’t talk about how hard it is to accept yourself, especially when the person who you actually are feels at odds against the world. Being authentically YOU and building a life that is centered around your unique gifts and talents is no doubt an uphill battle, just as most things in life that are worth striving for.

Cause chances are, if you are being yourself, it is going to come with some friction. The reason there is friction is because of comparison.

So imagine this scenario… you are climbing a mountain. This mountain represents some goal you are pushing towards or trying to achieve. You are doing a pretty good job… even though it was hard to motivate yourself to get started, now you are making some serious progress. Suddenly, the mountain starts to get really steep, and it gets slippery, and you start to slide. Then you start sliding down, down, and further down, until you are back where you started.

The slippery, sliding part of the mountain? That’s comparison. It backtracks all our progress…

…and suddenly we are down at the bottom the mountain, feeling bad about ourselves, and not only that, feeling bad about the people and expectations we compared ourselves to.

For example, I love writing. I feel confident in my ability to write and share words with the world. But sometimes, it is extremely, EXTREMELY hard to even sit down at my computer to type and get the words out. And you know why?

Because I literally sit and compare myself to every blogger, influencer, and writer I know or follow, and think to myself “why should I even bother? I’ll never be as good as them.” So I’ll take the little bit that I wrote, erase it, and wait until the next time.

This is not my attempt to fish for affirmation because obviously if you’re reading this you probably don’t feel that way, but if I’m being super honest with you, that is a real struggle of mine. You probably have those insecurities too.

Well, my friend, this is what I have to say to you today:

THE COMPARISON ENDS HERE.

I’m putting this on my blog, because that’s where I need to see it.

Maybe you need to put it on your bathroom mirror. Your desk at work. Maybe you need to text it to a family member or friend.

But the truth is, the comparison needs to stop somewhere. Otherwise, we will continue to run in circles trying to become just like everyone else. And in out search to become everyone else, we will lose our compassion for ourselves and others.

I read somewhere that compassion motivates us to go out of our way to care for others: physically, mentally, and emotionally. The opposite of compassion is selfishness and greed. And what’s more selfish and greedy than wishing to be someone who we are not?

Let this be the point in your life where comparison ends, and compassion begins… compassion for yourself, and all those around you.

Friend, you were created for much too much in this life to let it pass by you pretending to be someone you’re not.

Today, EMBRACE who you were made to be, and live in purpose. Let that purpose guide you into places where you can show others compassion, kindness, and love.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that who you are is not enough.

And remember: compassion begins where comparison ends.
So… let’s start right now! Drop a comment below about ONE way you want to vow to STOP the comparison in your life and BEGIN to show compassion to yourself and others… I’ll be the first! 😉

<3 Britt